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03 Jun 2017 8:19 a.m. PST
by Editor in Chief Bill

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Personal logo Editor in Chief Bill The Editor of TMP Fezian03 Jun 2017 8:18 a.m. PST

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I think most married gamers find it hard to game more than once or twice a month. Am I right or wrong?

shaun from s and s models Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 8:40 a.m. PST

once a week for me

Personal logo Bobgnar Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 8:48 a.m. PST

Most married wargamers that I know game every Friday night with me.

I remember when the new England wargames association was first started back in 1969 with Dick Bryant, Leo Cronin, me and some others we did get carried away for a while. We would have a big Sunday game, then finish it up on Monday, get together on Tuesday to plan the next big game, have a small game on Wednesday, spend Thursday with the family (but typically using the time for painting figures), meet on Friday to discuss group figure orders and painting projects, do the family thing again on Saturday, and be back to the big game on Sunday. This is when we first started and we were all very enthusiastic about wargaming, playing CLS at the time, it was like an addiction.+

This lasted for about 2 – 3 months when the wives protested, and we pretty much went to two games a week . I think that lasted for about six months and we settled into a once a week routine. We had all been interested in history and knew about wargaming but this was our first collective activity.

I cannot imagine any happily married couple where one spouse does not allow the other one indulging to his/her hobby once a week. Plus, of course, the necessary prep time in between.

cavcrazy03 Jun 2017 9:01 a.m. PST

Once maybe twice a month is the norm for me.

DisasterWargamer Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 9:03 a.m. PST

4 to 5 times a month for me for quite sometime

joeltks Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 9:06 a.m. PST

Life doesn't allow more than one or two games a month. Being married is part of it. I'm quite positive that the rest of you are independently wealthy retired empty nesters with on-call maintenance staff. More power to you … but, now that I've wasted my free time for the weekend, I gotta go rebuild a section of fence.

David Manley03 Jun 2017 9:29 a.m. PST

On average once a week – until children came along, then the average nosedived

nickinsomerset03 Jun 2017 9:32 a.m. PST

At least 4 club nights a month and a few larger weekend games, wife is Cabin crew so is away a good part of every month!

Tally Ho!

Bob in Edmonton03 Jun 2017 10:07 a.m. PST

Once a week if I want--usually works out to 2-3 times per month.

Personal logo Extra Crispy Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 10:16 a.m. PST

Every Monday night, occasional day games with retired friends, and occasional weekend games at cons and the like. More now that the child is 15YO.

Not wealthy but one benefit of condo living: very little maintenance!

wrgmr103 Jun 2017 10:39 a.m. PST

Every Thursday night for me, and a couple of cons pers year.

Cacique Caribe03 Jun 2017 10:46 a.m. PST

Back when I was still able to drive and then sit through a game I was gaming about once a week.

She loved having a night to herself or with her friends. Seven nights a week with me, week after week, must be absolutely awful. :)


Legbiter03 Jun 2017 10:49 a.m. PST

I married another gamer, partially because I foresaw this problem.

Personal logo Saber6 Supporting Member of TMP Fezian03 Jun 2017 11:06 a.m. PST

When I have opponents, 2-3 times a month. Lately 4-5 times a year

CeruLucifus03 Jun 2017 12:20 p.m. PST

2x a month scheduled right now, one of which I/we host. A third has sometimes happened but depends on gamer availability. My spouse and I each take a weekly night out; in some seasons I get more organized and this becomes another game night as well.

One huge factor is my wife and I have a regularly scheduled Saturday night sitter so we can go out on a date (dinner/movie or similar). One of my game groups meets on a Saturday night, and on that night my wife does her thing, spa or whatever. My wife has said more game days are fine as long as we don't take out any more Saturday date nights.

KSmyth03 Jun 2017 1:36 p.m. PST

About once a month. When I was first married in the late 70's and early 80's, it was much more frequently.

Dentatus Fezian03 Jun 2017 2:19 p.m. PST

Weekly, Tuesday nights.

Coyotepunc and Hatshepsuut03 Jun 2017 2:34 p.m. PST

I can game as often as I like; my wife is far less limiting to my gaming than my mental health or my buddies are. Some days the guys are having issues, some days I just can't walk out through the door.

clifblkskull Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 2:57 p.m. PST

2 times a week unless baseball for my grandson
Has worked for 47 years

jdpintex03 Jun 2017 2:58 p.m. PST

My wife doesn't mind me gaming and supports me gaming whenever I can. She almost had to force me to go to Historicon this year.

Work on the other hand really cramps my gaming, either by travel or pure exhaustion.

21eRegt03 Jun 2017 4:13 p.m. PST

4-5 times a month.

Aussiejed Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 5:26 p.m. PST

Whenever I can wrangle it, which works out to… maybe once every few months.

But then I work shiftwork, so it's hard for me to fit in anything social let alone gaming.

Used to be more, but family (2 kids), work and non-gaming friends always ends up first priority.

Truth be told considering just giving it (gaming) up.

Personal logo etotheipi Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 5:55 p.m. PST

Most of my games are with SWMBO.

Once a month with "the group", which includes She. Once a week+ with me & Her. Once or twice a month or so the game is supplemented by DOM. Used to also be with SOM, but if he takes an overseas tour out of boot camp, that will be less often. When the kids were younger, we used to go game with them at the FLGS.

Personal logo Murphy Sponsoring Member of TMP Inactive Member03 Jun 2017 6:38 p.m. PST

My wonderful wife (Gawd bless her!), wants me to game more, so she can buy and paint up more terrain and scenery….

Personal logo Jlundberg Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 7:50 p.m. PST

A good month is 2 times. It has more to do with schedules of the other gamers than my wife.

Personal logo Doctor X Supporting Member of TMP03 Jun 2017 10:25 p.m. PST

At least once a week now that my sons are moving on and I am retired.
Prior to that once a month with all the activity going on.

45thdiv04 Jun 2017 2:04 a.m. PST

It's not my wife, but work that kills my hobby time. My wife is a gamer. We are both counting the years to retirement.

FusilierDan Supporting Member of TMP04 Jun 2017 3:10 a.m. PST

I wouldn't say that marriage in it's self is the limiting factor. I plan on once a week but other things have it work out to about 3 times a month.

There are times I could get some some games in but I'm fairly protective of the time I spend with my wife.

Dynaman878904 Jun 2017 7:10 a.m. PST

Children were the limiter for me, now that they are grown I get in 3 to 5 games a month. Could be more but I have other hobbies as well.

Don Manser04 Jun 2017 10:23 a.m. PST

Agree with FusilierDan.

I'm fortunate that in 29 years she (Susan) has never dissuaded me from gaming, painting, reading, collecting etc. My available time has much more to do with work than being married.

robert piepenbrink Supporting Member of TMP04 Jun 2017 11:24 a.m. PST

Once a week--when I could find opponents--was never a problem.

Frederick Supporting Member of TMP04 Jun 2017 12:20 p.m. PST

At the local gaming club maybe three times a year

For games at home about once a month

The issue is not being married – it is actually work that interferes (and my desire to spend time with my family when not working)

RudyNelson04 Jun 2017 4:57 p.m. PST

When I gamed heavily before I started my store, once a week was common. Sat was gaming and Sun was our time. Of course I played in a 10,000 casting Napoleonic game on my honeymoon. Yes, we are still married and celebrate 40 years in October.

Rdfraf Supporting Member of TMP05 Jun 2017 5:49 a.m. PST

Every Monday!

Old Wolfman06 Jun 2017 6:32 a.m. PST

Herself is quite understanding of my gaming hobby,as I also tell her how I did,and keep her updated on my projects.

Guthroth11 Jun 2017 8:59 a.m. PST

3-4 times a month and about 6-8 gaming shows/comps a year. I did have to scale back while kid was small, but back to speed now.

huron725 Inactive Member21 Aug 2017 2:15 p.m. PST

Yeah I would say for my situation that is probably right on.

A lot of other responsibilities then when I have time I am mentally and/or sometimes physically exhausted that I do not have the interest. Vicious world!

Rallynow Supporting Member of TMP22 Aug 2017 11:38 a.m. PST

As often as I want. Work is the thing that gets in way of my gaming. I could get into a game three times a week if I didn't work. I think for most guys it's not the wife but the kids that are the issue.

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