Having seen this post by Great War Ace:
I thought I would share a similar incident that took place about a month ago. I have just started playing in local music jams in my area and went to a good local jam on Wednesday night. One of my friends from high school V, was the host of this jam. Several friends and acquaintances were there. Towards the end of the session my friend and harmonica mentor LD showed up and sat in. He used the amp I was using, (I borrowed it from him to get some time in on using an amp instead of a PA system) and when V asked him what settings he wanted to use, he said "I don't care, you set it up." Which was done.
After a few songs LD walked over and turned up the volume. V turned it down. After another song LD turned it back up again as he thought it was too low. Again V turned it down and complained that it was too loud. At this LD quietly unplugged his mic, wrapped up the cord, packed away his harps and walked out to the car. One quick note here, LD has the use of only one arm due to a motorcycle accident in his teens. His wife stayed until the end listeniong to the rest of the show.
When it ended, she went up and talked to V explaining that it had been a bit of a rough day for LD. LD walked in to see where she was, went up and complained to V about what amounts to a breach of musician etiquette, that being you never touch another man's gear without permission, V responded with the leader's prerogative to set levels, etc. LD stormed out, his wife followed, V followed arguing all the way out the door LD, turned back and a heated argument ensued about the quality of each others musicianship and professional credentials. I stood between them trying trying to play UN in the Cuban Missile Crisis. Eventually LD stormed off and left when his wife started to drive off and V banned him from any of his jam sessions.
Needless to say alcohol was a factor for at least one of the participants. They have since apologized and made up to each other but for me it was a highly surreal repeat of a similar incident in a community band I was in about 25 years ago. At tha time I watched my clarinet teacher and the conductor get into an argument about the conductor wanting to run the rehearsal 10 minutes late to go back over one song for an upcoming concert. It was less passionate,and definitely one sided on the part of my clarinet teacher. Both were good friends, and it kind of ended their friendship on the part of my instructor's choice, but more just as ridiculous.
These are people of consummate skill and training whom I
have high regard and respect for. To see them act so childishly is something that pains me.All I can do is reply as Charlie Brown does: "Good Grief!"