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Jana Wang Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 4:23 p.m. PST

Just curious what people would do…

You spot an auction for something you want and point it out to a friend, saying you plan to bid on it. The friend PMs you back and says he will bid on it too. Do you squash him in a bidding war, or let him win it?

DeanMoto Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 4:39 p.m. PST

Tell him you've changed your mind and aren't interested in the item anymore then swoop in the last minute to outbid him. grin

Personal logo Doms Decals Sponsoring Member of TMP Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 4:44 p.m. PST

Depends how badly I want it, but it strikes me as pretty poor etiquette on the friend's part to be bidding against you in the first place….

Personal logo Wyatt the Odd Supporting Member of TMP Fezian08 Feb 2010 4:51 p.m. PST

Bad form on the friend's part. In our 1/87 group, we generally did not bid against one another on e-bay auctions. Instead, some would offer to purchase select portions of particularly large collections – thus giving the original bidder a financial boost in advance.

I suspect that this kind of action is one small factor in the hidden bidder IDs ebay instituted.


Chris Palmer08 Feb 2010 5:15 p.m. PST

As mentioned, very bad form for your friend to bid against you. I would go ahead and bid just as I had planned to as if the friend wasn't involved. But I sure would be tempted to bid on the high side to insure I won it.

The Gray Ghost Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 5:18 p.m. PST

I never tell friends what I'm bidding on

nycjadie Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 5:50 p.m. PST

I've only bid against Bill Armintrout, but now I have no idea who I'm bidding against.

Personal logo Editor in Chief Bill The Editor of TMP Fezian08 Feb 2010 5:59 p.m. PST

I've only bid against Bill Armintrout…

And saved me from myself, thank you! grin

DeanMoto Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 6:08 p.m. PST

I've only bid against Bill Armintrout, but now I have no idea who I'm bidding against.

I can't be sure, but this might be him on ebay – B**L

Personal logo 20thmaine Supporting Member of TMP08 Feb 2010 6:24 p.m. PST

I've bid against a friend – course I didn't realise until I checked the bid history – the friend was using their proper name, and the product was just the sort of thing they'd have been after.

I was only somewhat interested – so I stopped bidding.

Personal logo Waco Joe Supporting Member of TMP08 Feb 2010 7:13 p.m. PST

Never bid against a friend, never offer to split lottery winnings. Simple rules to live by.

chonk34 Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 7:32 p.m. PST

I don't have friends, so I can neatly sidestep that whole issue.

Neotacha Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 8:14 p.m. PST

Unfortunately, with the hidden bidder ID, I now risk bidding against my husband or friends (or known TMP acquaintances). With Michael it's not such a big deal; we can discuss things before either of us bids. With everyone else, I can only say I'm sorry.

mweaver Inactive Member08 Feb 2010 8:43 p.m. PST

A bit rude, that. I'd bid what I had originally planned to bid, and let it go at that. And not tip off the friend next time.

Bunkermeister Supporting Member of TMP08 Feb 2010 9:34 p.m. PST

I don't bid against friends, it's bad form IMHO.

Mike "Bunkermeister" Creek

Buff Orpington Inactive Member09 Feb 2010 6:15 a.m. PST

I'll ask my fellow club member to see if he's interested. I have been outbid by a Mr Armintrout in the past.

Streitax Inactive Member09 Feb 2010 8:34 a.m. PST

Your friend should be consigned to the Seventh Circle of eBay Hell, bid with impunity.

Personal logo John the OFM Supporting Member of TMP09 Feb 2010 8:44 a.m. PST

Some seem to think that eBay is itself a competitive thing. Thus, all the "strategeries" you see, and the thrill of the hunt, the thrill of the snipe.
I play my best friends on the table all the time, regularly stomping on and getting stomped. If you think eBay is a competition, I see no problem bidding against friends. Trash talk is always best against friends. "Hey, Fred! Didn't you bid on the wizard? ZZAAPP!!"

Personal logo Andrew Walters Supporting Member of TMP09 Feb 2010 10:32 a.m. PST

Isn't this what the "Guy Code" was invented to solve?

Now, at Endgame's wonderful annual used game auction, which is extremely fun and friendly, when the seller and buyers are all in the room, I'll bid against a friend when it's for something not particularly rare, down in the $4-10 range. After all, this is only fair to the buyer. This is particularly common if we're bidding on something silly (this auction is a roaring good time). If it gets serious, in rarity or in price, there is eye contact, an unspoken agreement, and one of us drops out. Friends are more important than games.

The Endgame auction is April 24 this year. I highly recommend it.


pphalen Inactive Member09 Feb 2010 11:32 a.m. PST

No, but usually I try to "Lowball" some of my friends when no one else is bidding on their auctions (Sorry, Antonio!)

Who asked this joker09 Feb 2010 2:01 p.m. PST

I make jokes to a friend of mine about bidding against him. I'd never do it. That's just lame.

Mithmee Supporting Member of TMP30 Apr 2010 7:02 a.m. PST

I would have pointed it out to them in the first place.

They would have found out about it after I won the auction.

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