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Personal logo etotheipi Sponsoring Member of TMP13 Oct 2019 9:58 a.m. PST

There have been several philosophies offered about the relationship between family and wargaming … from a useless distraction that makes you weak to the stalwart foundation of my hobby through everything in between.

On a relative percentage scale*, how much does your family impact your enjoyment of wargaming?

* – So, 0% means no impact. -50% means cuts it by half. +100% would mean doubles your enjoyment (adds 100%).

While enjoyment, time spent, money spent, scope of different activities, type of play are all related, this is just asking about enjoyment. Feel free to break it down into components.

Me +100%, at least.

SWMBO organizes our game day and impels me to get off my duff and go out to play. She, DOM, and SOM all play. Right now DOM is 3D printing some stuff and painting some other stuff of mine, and I got to do some repairs and scratchbuilding on some Tau stuff of SOM.

UshCha13 Oct 2019 2:01 p.m. PST

0% I have my hobbies wife has hers. We have some hobbies in common, wargames are my time and I have sufficient time I do as much as I want which is by no means all the time that would be too much.

Personal logo ochoin Supporting Member of TMP13 Oct 2019 5:06 p.m. PST

Wouldn't it be easier if o% means a negative impact, 50% no impact & 100% the proverbial doubles?

I think you'd get more valid results if you cut the confusion of the question.

khanscom13 Oct 2019 5:37 p.m. PST

0%-- the wife tolerates it and even occasionally appreciates (in an aesthetic sense) some of my painted figs or models.

Personal logo ACWBill Supporting Member of TMP13 Oct 2019 7:07 p.m. PST

What Ushcha said.

Joes Shop Supporting Member of TMP14 Oct 2019 7:13 a.m. PST


Sgt Slag14 Oct 2019 11:56 a.m. PST

+75%. Two of my sons play RPG's with me. My wife has played, in the past, but she encourages me to play my RPG's and my wargames. One of my sons plays in my wargames, as well.

Planning to buy a custom gaming table, with a lift system. Her requirement: it has to have the lift system, so she can use it as a quilting/cutting table for her fiber hobbies. Cheers!

Personal logo Florida Tory Supporting Member of TMP15 Oct 2019 3:47 a.m. PST


Both sons are wargamers, grandsons are starting to learn, and wife encourages me to have a hobby.

thumbs up


RudyNelson15 Oct 2019 12:41 p.m. PST

Old story but in 1977 on my honeymoon, I played in a 10,000 casting Napoleonics big battle at Fort Hood. Still married. So I will say no impact.

Stew art Supporting Member of TMP16 Oct 2019 6:17 a.m. PST


Not because the wife disapproves or anything like that.
But she and the two little kids take time. I can usually find some hours to paint here and there but finding time to game during daylight hours can be difficult.

Mike Target16 Oct 2019 8:24 a.m. PST

I'm not sure I could put a number to it- but generally wifey and family do tend to head for the toysoldier websites when christmas is on the horizon so its defo a bonus there! On the other hand I do get the odd complaint about tidying up my toys, or preferring to paint stuff than sit with her to watch celebs dancing or whatever that inane TV show she likes is about…

If we reverse the equation though I tend to find my hobbies weed out unsuitable partners rather well- one lass after a few months of seeing each other decided she was in a position to declare that I had to choose between her and my toys…

…it wasn't a difficult choice.

Personal logo COL Scott ret Supporting Member of TMP21 Oct 2019 10:57 p.m. PST

Children +65-75 mutual enjoyment, Wife -50 time taken away from other priorities.

Legion 422 Oct 2019 3:04 a.m. PST

No one including anyone's kids gets close to my minis !!!!! They should go play with their own toys damn it !!!!!!

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