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Personal logo Editor in Chief Bill The Editor of TMP Fezian06 May 2016 9:42 a.m. PST

When you play a wargame and lose, would you say you are a 'good loser'?

Personal logo John the Greater Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 9:49 a.m. PST

Lose? What is that word?

I prefer to think I am a perfect gentleman when the game results in me suffering a "non-victory result." After all, the guys with the "victory result" tend to be friends of mine.

Personal logo Herkybird Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 9:54 a.m. PST

I hope so!

Who asked this joker06 May 2016 10:01 a.m. PST

I think so. I go into a game with the notion that I will be crushed. Inner peace through lowered expectations. grin

Fat Wally06 May 2016 10:02 a.m. PST

Yes. However, to be fair I have a lot experience of it.

Ceterman06 May 2016 10:05 a.m. PST

I better be. As often as it seems to happen.

Hafen von Schlockenberg06 May 2016 10:07 a.m. PST

Oh,I can lose real good.

Winston Smith06 May 2016 10:18 a.m. PST

I enjoy winning but don't get all that upset about it. I can always blame the dice.

Doug MSC Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 10:22 a.m. PST

I get in a game with the intention of winning but I don't mind loosing as long as it was a fun game. Fun with friends, lots of laughs and teasing back and forth is what makes a fun night, whether I win or lose.

Garand06 May 2016 10:26 a.m. PST

No, my mommy always told me I was a winner!


Personal logo The Virtual Armchair General Sponsoring Member of TMP06 May 2016 10:28 a.m. PST

Losing is what I do best--which makes my wins ever so much sweeter.

But if I ever lose track of the fact I'm playing a GAME with TOY SOLDIERS, and behave badly when I lose, I deserve to be as lonely as I'm going to be.

Yes, I'm a Good Loser, and I hope only a Better Winner.


Joes Shop Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 10:30 a.m. PST


John Leahy06 May 2016 10:42 a.m. PST

I think so. Just got whupped really badly a few weeks ago in a Punic War game. My Romans went down to epic defeat. I still had a good time as I love the rules and period. My buddy Ed is great to play with. We always have a good post game discussion. I think I handled it quite well.

wrgmr106 May 2016 10:42 a.m. PST

Yes, our group always shakes hands after game, each of us saying "good game" no matter who won or lost.

Ivan DBA06 May 2016 10:47 a.m. PST

Yes. Practice makes perfect!

Personal logo 20thmaine Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 10:57 a.m. PST

Good ? I'm brilliant at it. evil grin

Shagnasty Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 10:57 a.m. PST

I try.

jpattern206 May 2016 11:12 a.m. PST

I play Skaven and other underdogs, so, yeah, I *have* to be a good loser. (To be fair, my Skaven either win big or lose even bigger.)

Frederick Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 11:12 a.m. PST

As Ivan knows, you're good at what you do a lot

I am a great loser

Yesthatphil06 May 2016 11:14 a.m. PST

Loser? Me? wink

Why of course I'm a good loser – especially to youngsters and newbies …


Mute Bystander06 May 2016 11:14 a.m. PST


B6GOBOS06 May 2016 11:15 a.m. PST

I am a great loser. I lose all the time me.

advocate06 May 2016 11:42 a.m. PST

I aspire to be.

Thomas O06 May 2016 11:55 a.m. PST

With my track record for games I have to be!

Alphanor06 May 2016 12:04 p.m. PST

Well, I get a lot of practice ….

redbanner414506 May 2016 12:16 p.m. PST

I expect a participation trophy.

Coyotepunc and Hatshepsuut06 May 2016 12:41 p.m. PST

I am the best loser. I am so good at losing, if I were able to make money by losing I would be a billionaire by now.

In re my attitude about not winning wargames, I enjoy the game no matter what. If my opponent's unarmed baggage followers annihilate my elite Guard Knights, I celebrate because it was a spectacular against-the-odds victory. If I come out on the bottom, as I usually do, I am still happy to have had the time to show off my miniatures and socialize.

JimSelzer Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 12:57 p.m. PST

only if the winners don/t gloat over winning

mad monkey 106 May 2016 12:59 p.m. PST

I try.

McKinstry Fezian06 May 2016 1:18 p.m. PST

I am gracious in defeat but the internal dialogue is petulant at best.

Korvessa06 May 2016 2:04 p.m. PST

The dude I solo against is a perfect gentleman. Lets me win all the time.

tigrifsgt06 May 2016 2:36 p.m. PST

Like Mckinstry, gracious yes, good no.

HidaSeku06 May 2016 3:40 p.m. PST

I think McKinstry nailed it on the head, because that's exactly how I am in defeat (which is often!)

vagamer63 Supporting Member of TMP06 May 2016 4:23 p.m. PST

Being a good and gracious loser is the best training for being a good and gracious winner!

If you can't lose with a smile on your face, and a warm handshake for the winner you probably need to find something else to do with your life!!

hetzer06 May 2016 5:29 p.m. PST

I always assumed that was why I was invited to play in the first place.

Jeigheff06 May 2016 5:38 p.m. PST

Usually, I think. I must lose at least half the time.

I confess that I haven't always responded well to gloating, even if I'm on the winning side with others who gloat.

One more thing: it's one thing to lose. It's another thing to lose vvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyy ssssssssllllowwwwwwwlllllllyyyyyyyy in a slow-moving game. I feel annoyance at first, and then resignation. I can see defeat coming and know I can't avoid it.

Clash95706 May 2016 7:28 p.m. PST

I think it largely depends on my opponent whether I am a good loser or not. Super competitive opponents who always take a cheesy or optimum list or tries to push the rules in their favor on every little thing make me just give a halfhearted good game and nothing more.

Players with unpainted stuff after weeks of games, cause me to be a rather bored opponent win or lose. Which I think makes me a less gracious loser than I should be as I didn't really care one way or the other.

Perhaps the stupidest way I can sometimes be a poor loser is when I am playing the "good guy" army of the setting. I try to keep some separation, but sometimes when, say playing WWII Americans, I take the game a bit too serious to be the best sport I can be and just enjoy the game. I find it strange that, by and large, I enjoy games where I am playing the "bad guys" since I have the mindset that I want I kinda want my force to lose, but I am not going to give the win my opponent a still try my best to win.

All the above radically changes based on my opponent. I always have fun gaming with my non-gamer friends win or lose.

There are a couple of gaming acquaintances just know how to make a game fun too. I once had a game with one of those who eliminated my entire force down to literally one man in which I had a blast playing.

Wolfshanza06 May 2016 10:00 p.m. PST

Dice hate me so ah'm good at shrugging ! evil grin

Personal logo ACWBill Supporting Member of TMP07 May 2016 3:01 a.m. PST

I am a good loser and I have a large sample size for analysis.

Personal logo etotheipi Sponsoring Member of TMP07 May 2016 3:14 a.m. PST

Often, someone else at the table achieves the victory conditions for the scenario. I don't consider that a lose.

I've only lost a couple of times. I like to think I sucked it up and played it out without disrupting others' enjoyment of the game.

Personal logo Rrobbyrobot Supporting Member of TMP07 May 2016 4:11 a.m. PST

In the past four years I've won so seldom I actually have kept track. Of my wins. I've won some 25 games in that time. This while playing at least one game a week with friends. Often two games a week. So, others would say I'm a very good looser. I say my dice hate me…
But I have absolutely no trouble finding an opponent. I'm good for their morale.

Ottoathome07 May 2016 6:30 a.m. PST

I dunno about the rest of you, but I game with a bunch of friends who are a delight to be with, love the hobby, are easy-going, genial guys who love fun and have a good sense of humor. I've won already even before we start the game.

coopman07 May 2016 6:54 a.m. PST

Yes, and I do it frequently to sharpen my skills.

Oberlindes Sol LIC Supporting Member of TMP07 May 2016 9:57 p.m. PST

After spending half the day wargaming, I always feel like a winner.

Great War Ace08 May 2016 7:12 a.m. PST


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