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OSchmidt Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 5:47 a.m. PST

Gotta be fair. She didn't game, gotta admit your failures when you crow about your success' My wife didn't game at "The Weekend." She had a case of bursitis and found it diffult to get up and down from the chair. She had it for about a week before and still has not been "miraculously cured" now the convention is over, so I'll give here the benefit of the doubt-- (like I had a choice).

Dynaman878924 Jun 2013 6:11 a.m. PST

It is for the best, wargaming and spouses do not mix.

Jimmy da Purple24 Jun 2013 6:22 a.m. PST

Keep hope alive! I have tried, but have not had success.

Meiczyslaw Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 6:51 a.m. PST

It is for the best, wargaming and spouses do not mix.

That's not quite true. But it is expensive.

Old Slow Trot Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 7:03 a.m. PST

I've,at least,explained the hobby to Herself. Quite understanding. Would still like to teach her a few of the wargames I play.

Chef Lackey Rich Fezian Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 7:13 a.m. PST

It is for the best, wargaming and spouses do not mix.

Nuts to that. The happiest gamer couples I've seen are the ones where both of them enjoy at least some elements of the hobby. A gal who games is a pearl beyond price and the last one I dated introduced me to some of my favorite boardgames while I was teaching her to paint.

That said, bursitis can be very painful, and I can't see trying to play during a bout of it.

Personal logo Murphy Sponsoring Member of TMP24 Jun 2013 7:52 a.m. PST

My wife, (Gawd Bless Her!), plays, but isn't as much into playing the game as building it.
She enjoys making terrain and scenery. She's made the majority of my 15mm roads, and my split rail fences, etc…

Her mentality is, "I'll build the terrain and scenery, and you can play the games using it…"

She is indeed a rare special woman…

Dynaman878924 Jun 2013 8:06 a.m. PST

> A gal who games is a pearl beyond price

That is crazy talk. The wife and I share many interests but gaming is my chance to get out and do my own thing.

Glenn M Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 8:09 a.m. PST

My wife isn't a miniature gamer, but she loves boardgames. She also enjoys crossover miniatures/boardgames.
And she has many other fine assets.

79thPA Supporting Member of TMP24 Jun 2013 8:16 a.m. PST

Consider it a blessing in disguise.

Caesar Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 9:00 a.m. PST

My wife loves boardgames, I love boardgames, we play boardgames together. It's wonderful.

GypsyComet24 Jun 2013 9:06 a.m. PST

You don't need a wife who games, specifically. What you need is one who has and understands hobbies. Even if you don't share more than one or two of them, the grasp of what hobbies are for will make her much more tolerant of yours. Gaming isn't odious (though it can be odorous) like some passtimes, and knowing that you are spending money and time on something other than good booze and bad women is beyond price to the one you want to keep.

Razor7824 Jun 2013 9:19 a.m. PST

My wife dosen't game but she does have other hobby interests, she knits, crochets etc while I paint "my little men". But that being said she has accompanied me on numerous trips to "empty fields" and museums without complaints. She always asks if I can use an item before she tosses it in the trash. She loves to show off my latest army to our friends, and when I showed her my latest Panther Tank paint job she said, "Those are German, I can tell by the camouflage, AND I SHOULD NOT KNOW THAT!!". In short she is a true gem and I am a lucky man.

ashauace6970 Supporting Member of TMP24 Jun 2013 10:12 a.m. PST

My lovely wife when we first met ,was very fascinated with my hobby and supportive. "Only I won't jump out of an airplane" she says as I told her about my Army experiences.
We hitched up and she even "let me " build a hobby room in the garage.
NO interest to playing though but that's fine

marcus arilius24 Jun 2013 10:55 a.m. PST

My wife loved selling my excess stuff at the flea market. she had a great time. I meet Murphy's wife at Little Wars and she is a special woman. any woman that luv's us as we are is wonderful.

OSchmidt Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 11:03 a.m. PST

Oh no, you misunderstand. My wife is fine with the hobby and doesn't mind it at all. She proof-reads my rules and back up stories and histories, and never minds me going to conventions or taking over the living room for a game. She's quite happy with that and considers the hobby marvellous. She's just not into games period-- any type of game-- wargames or any.

As for the house I have the run of it, with about half of the square footage devoted to my hobby. We have a "raised ranch" that is, an above ground "basement" which I finished off as a gaming room, a hobby room, and so forth (the furnace, washing machine,d dryer, well, slop sink and water tank are all discreetly in enclosers so you cant see, the rest is devoted to Otto's Imperial War Museaum. She's fine with all that.

Warlord24 Jun 2013 11:18 a.m. PST

My wife loved selling my excess stuff at the flea market. she had a great time. I meet Murphy's wife at Little Wars and she is a special woman. any woman that luv's us as we are is wonderful.

You got that right!

I can get my litle wife to game every once in a while but it is clearly my thing though, she also loves board games so we meet in the middle there too :)

The Gonk Inactive Member24 Jun 2013 7:51 p.m. PST

I love my wife, but I already have a full life with her. I appreciate having a retreat she has absolutely no interest in.

Plus, the one game of Blood Bowl we played, she trounced me, so clearly she's not cut out for the hobby.

McKinstry Fezian24 Jun 2013 9:25 p.m. PST

My wife of 37 years has been a great sport joining HMGS and attending Cold Wars and Fall In with me annually. She is willing to play only a limited range of games including soccer and skirmish stuff but I count myself blessed.

richarDISNEY Inactive Member25 Jun 2013 8:27 a.m. PST

My wife and I did Formula D over the weekend ( Le Mons was on…) and some D&D…
So they can mix.

HistoryPhD Inactive Member26 May 2014 2:52 p.m. PST

I must say that although my wife has zero interest in gaming itself, she absolutely loves painting figures and she's actually better at it than I am!

uglyfatbloke17 Sep 2014 6:00 a.m. PST

My wife has WW2 Germans, Confederates and Vikings…I have defeat weariness.

coopman Supporting Member of TMP31 Dec 2014 12:54 p.m. PST

I have painted thousands of figures since my wife and I got married in 1975. Most of that painting time was spent in the same room with her. She is thankful that I have a hobby that keeps me at home most of the time, and available when she needed me to help her with something. She has no interest in playing any games though, no matter what they might be.

Ottoathome Inactive Member01 Jan 2015 4:26 p.m. PST

My wife loves the hobby as I said. Her female co-workers in the office were horrified to hear she let me go to conventions.

"Don't you realize thee are HOOKERS! at these conventions!" They asked in horror.

to this my wife laughed hysterically and said, "Ummm no… I've been to his conventions. I never saw so many fat, bald, sweaty white men in one place in my life. If there's hookers at these things they're gonna starve. These guys would look at them and say "You want $100 USD?????? Why… Why.. that's four regiments! When they persisted, she said. "Look my husbands's eye candy is Valerie Bertinelli. If he was going up to his room and Valerie Bertinelli came on the elevator wearing nothing but a pair of red spike heels, he gaze her over once, and say "Gee, my wife has a uniform must like that at home!"

Early morning writer Inactive Member03 Jan 2015 10:28 a.m. PST

Otto, you are one lucky son of a gun to have a wife like that. And may I compliment you on your taste for eye candy. Ms. Bertinelli's first post One Day At A Time (?) appearance was a courtroom drama appearance in some astonishing lingerie – I fantasize to this day! But, then when you look at who she married and how that turned out, etcetera, it just shows why fantasies should always remain fantasies (at least that sort).

Ottoathome Inactive Member04 Jan 2015 8:47 a.m. PST

Dear Early Morning After.

Yes, I believe Ms Bertinelli is an immortal. She looks as scrumptious now at 50 something as she was back then. By the way, seen Raquel Welch today in her 70's? Yum. Another immortal.

cleo liebl18 Jan 2016 7:52 p.m. PST

Otto, why didn't you tell me this thread existed?

Ottoathome Inactive Member22 Jan 2016 6:11 a.m. PST

Dear Cleo

I thought you knew.


Personal logo capncarp Supporting Member of TMP09 Apr 2016 5:29 p.m. PST

Mrs. Carp enjoys gaming, has been to the last several years of ColdWars and Fall Ins, and has gotten interested in a particular set of rules. She has been addressed by her first name by her co-gamers. And the GMs remember her from previous years. As I've stated before, she is a much superior strategist and tactician than me, and a helluva lot more sneaky, devious, and quietly ruthless than myself. Gawd bless 'er, as Murphy says.

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