"Banter becoming more offensive?" Topic

Have you noticed the banter in your core wargaming group has become more offensive? On bad days the inner child in some players come out to play? What are some of the comments that are made? Please use the "bleep" key.

Nope.

Not at all.

I am drinking a nice mint flavored hot chocolate right now. I don't have the stomach for such comments.

Not noticed any change.

The longer the group stays together the more you find out about people and you can get away with more, but never is any of it offensive.

Nope. I don't think the banter in my core group has ever been offensive. Unless calling someone, "the worst dice roller ever" is offensive.

Come to think of it I don't think I've ever heard anyone say anything offensive ever.

Hmmm…I have a good group of guys and a gal that play very nice together. Just the usual jokes. Some a little on the raunchy side but mostly PG or better, especially when the kiddies are around.

No. If anything it's way better than it used to be.

Rick

good group of folks I game with, nothing offensive but maybe some bad jokes from time to time :-)

Nope. What an odd question!

Congenial gentle men playing nice normally. At times, some do appear with Offensive Spear. Cads.

Perhaps it is a matter of becoming more sensitive?

If we all think it's funny, then how can it be "offensive"? 8)=

Actually our gaming group is very congenial. I have to admit to being one of the worst offenders, but only in regards to a particular individual. I don't know why, but something about the guy just totally irritates me. Of course, he has done all he can to add fuel to the fire, but I admit to repaying him tenfold. Some of the other players think it's kind of funny and while one or two of them just try to tolerate him (or ignore him) the wife of the guy whose house we play at can't stand the individual either.

No problems or negative changes with the groups I game with.

If you listened in, you might think we hate each other. We call each other terrible names. We harass and badger and mock. But we laugh and have a grand time and I wouldn't have it any other way. They truly are the best group of bleeps I know. How else can you tell if you're friends without calling each other vicious names? I'm gaming tonight. I hope I get called a bleeping bleep as soon as I enter the door. You know the good times will roll then.

Your group maybe. Certainly not mine.

Not a problem with any of my groups.

Nope, haven't noticed it at all.

At times, but its usually coming from me.
Actually, I have been trying to make a conscience effort to be less offensive…
I'm not 'mean' per-say, more in the line of crude jokes or terms.
I don't go about calling people names…

And I DON"T do it when children are present. I have kids myself…

There is "that one guy" that is incredibly offensive and enjoys making seriously blue jokes but otherwise we're all pretty good.
Now at my FLGS, the kids that play Magic…well they are teenagers.

No which is probably why we're still a group after 24 years.

DM

No – and sometimes people still wear ties …

Perhaps it is a matter of becoming more sensitive?

That came to mind also

No.

Perhaps "offensive" is too strong a term. What I mean is are you saying things now, that you perhaps would not have mentioned back in the early days?
Stepping back from the table, and listening to the banter, pretending that you are a stranger, does the thought "wow did he just say that?" Come to mind?

I've noticed quite the reverse. My local gaming group is quite genteel :)

No not at all. We have a great group of guys that game together. If there was a bad egg, he would be spoken to in private and if he continued after that, he would not be invited back period.

Not a problem in our group in Brown Deer, WI -- true gentlemen all and with hearts of gold.

The people I play with are just as irreverent and profane as ever. ;)

Shawn.

Our club tends to be a bit of a free-fire zone. Although at times I should probably be more restrained (or restrained more) than I am….

I learned to play hockey from an NHL all-star. He was fond of saying, "sport doesn't build character — it reveals it."

The same thing is true of gaming. If the guys you're gaming with are being offensive, the only thing that might have changed about them is their perception of you.

Interpret that statement as you will, but one of the reasons I don't do tournaments often is that it puts me in contact with people I wouldn't choose to.

Nope not at all. Nothing has changed for us, except we are all getting older and moving slower.

My group is offensive but rarely offended.

banter is fine , it is all the bloody swearing that seems to be ing people off..

To be even more clear, we game in someone's game room, and are the only ones in the house. We aren't just gaming buddies. We run around town together on occasion. See movies. Help each other move large pieces of furniture or paint a room or watch dogs or get mail. In a public area, I'm sure we would keep the insults to PG standard. Every game group I've been a member of shares this trait.

sounds like someone needs a new club

Not more or less as you would expect in any other social settting with friends.

Of my 3 gaming groups:
Group 1. The members barely speak at all.
Group 2. EVERYTHING gets turned into an innuendo. "I'm going to push my Sherman up there"…"oooh, I bet Sherman will like that! I always thought you liked to push things up there!"
Group 3. No swearing, but it's just one pun after another, non stop. This might be the worst of the 3.

We confine ourselves to "Why don't you **** off and die, you obnoxious cheating ****?" But that's only ever to one person and he won't take the hint.

No

It gets down right vicious. I've had to step outside for a quick smoke several times just so I didn't throttle the guy across the table. Really love when the sleeping with my wife comments come out. Did I mention I'm a solo gamer mostly. When I do actually get to game with other people they are guys I've known for 20+ years so really we know our limits on taste.

More 18- rated rather than PG? Yes. More offensive? No, because we do t take offense.

With a new group or friend, most people tone it down Neil they know where the limits are. Then start pushing those limits.

No, but our core group has fallen from about eight regulars to three of us, so maybe we are the offensive ones? :)

I think Shawn summed it up best for me:

"The people I play with are just as irreverent and profane as ever."

And I have been gaming with most since 1969/1970.

Not my crew. We're hard to offend.

Offensive no, good nature ribbing and off the cuff comments? You bet.

VR
James Mattes