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sillypoint03 Jan 2013 2:09 p.m. PST

Have you noticed the banter in your core wargaming group has become more offensive? On bad days the inner child in some players come out to play? What are some of the comments that are made? Please use the "bleep" key.

Personal logo Pictors Studio Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:11 p.m. PST


darthfozzywig Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:13 p.m. PST

Not at all.

combatpainter Fezian Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 2:13 p.m. PST

I am drinking a nice mint flavored hot chocolate right now. I don't have the stomach for such comments.

Tin hat03 Jan 2013 2:29 p.m. PST

Not noticed any change.

The longer the group stays together the more you find out about people and you can get away with more, but never is any of it offensive.

Chris Palmer03 Jan 2013 2:31 p.m. PST

Nope. I don't think the banter in my core group has ever been offensive. Unless calling someone, "the worst dice roller ever" is offensive.

Personal logo Pictors Studio Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:32 p.m. PST

Come to think of it I don't think I've ever heard anyone say anything offensive ever.

Who asked this joker Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 2:43 p.m. PST

Hmmm…I have a good group of guys and a gal that play very nice together. Just the usual jokes. Some a little on the raunchy side but mostly PG or better, especially when the kiddies are around.

Personal logo Florida Tory Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:49 p.m. PST

No. If anything it's way better than it used to be.


RazorMind03 Jan 2013 2:49 p.m. PST

good group of folks I game with, nothing offensive but maybe some bad jokes from time to time :-)

MajorB03 Jan 2013 2:50 p.m. PST

Nope. What an odd question!

Personal logo Condotta Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:50 p.m. PST

Congenial gentle men playing nice normally. At times, some do appear with Offensive Spear. Cads.

Pizzagrenadier03 Jan 2013 2:52 p.m. PST

Perhaps it is a matter of becoming more sensitive?

nazrat03 Jan 2013 2:54 p.m. PST

If we all think it's funny, then how can it be "offensive"? 8)=

Sundance Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 2:54 p.m. PST

Actually our gaming group is very congenial. I have to admit to being one of the worst offenders, but only in regards to a particular individual. I don't know why, but something about the guy just totally irritates me. Of course, he has done all he can to add fuel to the fire, but I admit to repaying him tenfold. Some of the other players think it's kind of funny and while one or two of them just try to tolerate him (or ignore him) the wife of the guy whose house we play at can't stand the individual either.

McKinstry Fezian03 Jan 2013 3:05 p.m. PST

No problems or negative changes with the groups I game with.

Warwick1303 Jan 2013 3:11 p.m. PST

If you listened in, you might think we hate each other. We call each other terrible names. We harass and badger and mock. But we laugh and have a grand time and I wouldn't have it any other way. They truly are the best group of bleeps I know. How else can you tell if you're friends without calling each other vicious names? I'm gaming tonight. I hope I get called a bleeping bleep as soon as I enter the door. You know the good times will roll then.

Personal logo John the OFM Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 3:12 p.m. PST

Your group maybe. Certainly not mine.

Chef Lackey Rich Fezian Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 3:29 p.m. PST

Not a problem with any of my groups.

PatrickWR03 Jan 2013 3:29 p.m. PST

Nope, haven't noticed it at all.

richarDISNEY Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 3:36 p.m. PST

At times, but its usually coming from me.
Actually, I have been trying to make a conscience effort to be less offensive…
I'm not 'mean' per-say, more in the line of crude jokes or terms.
I don't go about calling people names…

And I DON"T do it when children are present. I have kids myself…

Scott Kursk Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 4:07 p.m. PST

There is "that one guy" that is incredibly offensive and enjoys making seriously blue jokes but otherwise we're all pretty good.
Now at my FLGS, the kids that play Magic…well they are teenagers.

Don Manser Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 4:14 p.m. PST

No which is probably why we're still a group after 24 years.


Yesthatphil03 Jan 2013 4:16 p.m. PST

No – and sometimes people still wear ties …

DeanMoto Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 4:23 p.m. PST

Perhaps it is a matter of becoming more sensitive?
That came to mind also

79thPA Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 4:28 p.m. PST


sillypoint03 Jan 2013 4:31 p.m. PST

Perhaps "offensive" is too strong a term. What I mean is are you saying things now, that you perhaps would not have mentioned back in the early days?
Stepping back from the table, and listening to the banter, pretending that you are a stranger, does the thought "wow did he just say that?" Come to mind?

David Manley03 Jan 2013 4:45 p.m. PST

I've noticed quite the reverse. My local gaming group is quite genteel :)

Doug MSC Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 4:57 p.m. PST

No not at all. We have a great group of guys that game together. If there was a bad egg, he would be spoken to in private and if he continued after that, he would not be invited back period.

Personal logo Der Alte Fritz Sponsoring Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 4:58 p.m. PST

Not a problem in our group in Brown Deer, WI -- true gentlemen all and with hearts of gold.

Ambush Alley Games Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 4:59 p.m. PST

The people I play with are just as irreverent and profane as ever. ;)


streetline Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 5:06 p.m. PST

Our club tends to be a bit of a free-fire zone. Although at times I should probably be more restrained (or restrained more) than I am….

Meiczyslaw03 Jan 2013 5:06 p.m. PST

I learned to play hockey from an NHL all-star. He was fond of saying, "sport doesn't build character it reveals it."

The same thing is true of gaming. If the guys you're gaming with are being offensive, the only thing that might have changed about them is their perception of you.

Interpret that statement as you will, but one of the reasons I don't do tournaments often is that it puts me in contact with people I wouldn't choose to.

vdal181203 Jan 2013 6:32 p.m. PST

Nope not at all. Nothing has changed for us, except we are all getting older and moving slower.

The Sentient Bean Inactive Member03 Jan 2013 6:45 p.m. PST

My group is offensive but rarely offended.

Personal logo Cardinal Hawkwood Supporting Member of TMP03 Jan 2013 8:47 p.m. PST

banter is fine , it is all the bloody swearing that seems to be Bleeped texting people off..

Warwick1303 Jan 2013 11:41 p.m. PST

To be even more clear, we game in someone's game room, and are the only ones in the house. We aren't just gaming buddies. We run around town together on occasion. See movies. Help each other move large pieces of furniture or paint a room or watch dogs or get mail. In a public area, I'm sure we would keep the insults to PG standard. Every game group I've been a member of shares this trait.

Keraunos Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 12:19 a.m. PST

sounds like someone needs a new club

(Phil Dutre) Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 12:58 a.m. PST

Not more or less as you would expect in any other social settting with friends.

Nick H Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 2:33 a.m. PST

Of my 3 gaming groups:
Group 1. The members barely speak at all.
Group 2. EVERYTHING gets turned into an innuendo. "I'm going to push my Sherman up there"…"oooh, I bet Sherman will like that! I always thought you liked to push things up there!"
Group 3. No swearing, but it's just one pun after another, non stop. This might be the worst of the 3.

Buff Orpington Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 3:15 a.m. PST

We confine ourselves to "Why don't you **** off and die, you obnoxious cheating ****?" But that's only ever to one person and he won't take the hint.

Ed Mohrmann Supporting Member of TMP04 Jan 2013 6:01 a.m. PST


Jakse375 Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 6:42 a.m. PST

It gets down right vicious. I've had to step outside for a quick smoke several times just so I didn't throttle the guy across the table. Really love when the sleeping with my wife comments come out. Did I mention I'm a solo gamer mostly. When I do actually get to game with other people they are guys I've known for 20+ years so really we know our limits on taste.

AndrewGPaul Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 6:57 a.m. PST

More 18- rated rather than PG? Yes. More offensive? No, because we do t take offense.

With a new group or friend, most people tone it down Neil they know where the limits are. Then start pushing those limits.

Martin Rapier04 Jan 2013 7:13 a.m. PST

No, but our core group has fallen from about eight regulars to three of us, so maybe we are the offensive ones? :)

Patrick Sexton Supporting Member of TMP04 Jan 2013 9:27 a.m. PST

I think Shawn summed it up best for me:

"The people I play with are just as irreverent and profane as ever."

And I have been gaming with most since 1969/1970.

vtsaogames Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 10:57 a.m. PST

Not my crew. We're hard to offend.

vojvoda Inactive Member04 Jan 2013 11:03 a.m. PST

Offensive no, good nature ribbing and off the cuff comments? You bet.

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