OK, so Monday comes and Larry is up and dressed earlier than normal, and on the phone as my Mom gets up for the day. He seems in depth with the phone conversation and my Mom overhears him talking about someone picking him up, a hot tub, etc.
She asked him what was going on, and he launches into how he will be moving out and living with "his friend" (the escort), but that eventually he's going to move right back to San Jose again. So he's forgotten or reneged on going to the bank to help pay for rent, and has not even started the preliminaries of packing… so, OK…
He spent from about 8AM to noon on the porch waiting for someone who never showed. Instead of getting into it about rent, my Mom remotely disabled the wireless phone he had in his bathrobe pocket, and eventually (with him knowing) called the police and a state social worker to see what can do to protect him from being taken advantage of by whomever this escort is.
Both the police and the social worker talked to him as well.
Needless to say, both told my Mom she is powerless, that he has not been declared incompetent so she MUST reactivate the phone and he has to have the freedom to come and go, to hang himself out to dry, that she is liable if she inhibits him, because he is still considered legally a freely consenting adult.
The social worker informed my Mom that everything he is doing is atypical for a stage 2 or moderate level Alzheimers case, and per their policies, they will stop by sometime in the next 10 days for a surprise visit and evaluation, but she is to stay out of his way until then, and recommended she hits a local AlAnon meeting for support.
Both the social worker and the police talked to Larry on the phone also. My Mom said the back and forth with the police was a needed spot of humor for her; Larry worked and retired as a state union employee within the corrections system, his job was power of attorney and affairs settling on behalf of inmates at both metal institutes and prisons, and he laid into the cops, "I know how corrupt you all are, I've worked with cops for decades, you don't have my best interests in mind. She keeps trying to choose who my friends can be, you and her don't know what is best for me, and only care about yourselves and what you can get away with," etc., etc.
I went online to check through the different websites, and sure enough, all this time we thought he was *beginning* to have the signs of dementia when in fact he is a full-on intermediate Alzheimers case, showing some signs of advanced stages already.
So now I guess we wait for the state social worker to drop by, hope it is on a day that he has not taken off for whatever / wherever, and declare him incompetent. Then I guess we have to work in spite of his wishes to ensure he is not taken advantage of by, "the system," and those who work in, "the system."
We also registered my Mom for unemployment, and between my sister and I, started canvassing the area online for roommates/place to live, as without a job there is no way she can afford to stay where she is at alone when the lease is up in September.
