"People Who Lie About My Heritage" Topic

I get a little frustrated with people who repeatedly lie about my heritage, despite all of my efforts to correct them.

On social media, Thaddeus Blanchette (the cyber stalker banned from TMP) once again claims:

Billis directly descended from those Mormons who went to Mexico precisely to escape those anti-polygamy laws.

My grandfather is Zacarias Zarate who was born in Unión de San Antonio, Jalisco, México. My grandmother is Maria Eulalia Mendoza who was born in La Piedad Municipality, Michoacán de Ocampo, Mexico. From the DNA analysis, our family is roughly half Native American ancestry, half Spanish, with some Basque and some West African.

They had no connection to Mormons or polygamy.

Why do these people feel the need to continuously lie about me? It's lame.

Remember,your nobody until you have a stalker.

By the way, it sounds like your actual genealogy is very interesting.

I'm a huge family history buff. I took a course in college, then took a long hiatus until about ten years ago, when I finally did the research to discover who my birthparents were.

My family tree, both by blood and by adoption, contains a wild variety of heroes and villains! I recently learned about a distant uncle, a mill owner, who came down with amnesia and sleeping sickness… how interesting.

I would have guessed that you were mostly of Eskimo stock, Bill. It would explain how you could stay in a small room hunched over for hours on end with little contact from the outside world. (You know, from maintaining TMP. sigh, feeling the need to explain my jokes is also lame.)

I would have guessed that you were mostly of Eskimo stock, Bill.

Funny you mention that. On my adopted father's line, there are several amazing Oregon pioneers who were also successful gold prospectors. My great-great-granduncle Oliver was a veteran of the Indian wars, went to Alaska in a gold rush, ran a saloon in a mining camp, reportedly died in Alaska but no details are known. I have the diary he kept during the war.

I've read some biographies of pioneers, those were some impressive folk.

I was the lone genealogist in our family for years
but was joined in the effort several years ago by a
cousin.

One discovery – my maternal G'father was tried for
and acquitted of murder. I lived with those grand-
parents for a while when I was 4-6 years old and never
heard anything about it (he was accused and tried
in 1935, years prior to my birth).

One hero (not counting the slew of vets from the AWI
all the way to A'stan) – a first cousin (California
HP) died trying successfully to rescue a driver trapped
in a burning car. He got the driver out but my cousin
died in hospital.

My father's family, a bunch of real s.o.b's, hailed from a small town near Nottingham, that is reputed to be the most crime ridden burg in the UK.

Boy, we got clear of there just in time. We leave and 121 years later it all goes to the schlitz.

Don't feed the troll Bill.

Joining in the family trivia game, my direct ancestors came over from Wales in the 1840s. Settled for a time in Missouri. My uncle became such an ardent rebel that he refused to cut the buttons off his uniform, refused the oath of allegiance, and went to prison for a time over it all. Being just potato farmers, we have no idea why. Captured at Vicksburg BTW.

On social media, Thaddeus Blanchette (the cyber stalker banned from TMP) once again claims:

Consider the source Bill.
This is one of the angriest, saddest, most toxic persons that I have ever encountered. For someone that often bandies his "intelligence" about, he is truly "not very smart". He is emotionally immature and imho, mentally unbalanced.
Ignore him. He's a very sad person that truly needs professional help.

The other side of this is *why*?

Genealogy can be interesting, sure. And it's often appropriate to be grateful for the values and wisdom that have been passed to us to our benefit.

But to suggest someone's value or character is derived from their ancestors is a special kind of bad. You are not more worthwhile because your ancestors were a particular color, held a particular position, or accomplished something, and that other guy is not less valuable or trustworthy because his antecedents were a particular color, or held or didn't hold a particular position.

If someone wants to impugn someone based on their heritage, it tells me A) they don't have anything substantial to say about the person themself, B) they're not thinking right, and C) they probably haven't accomplished much, or they'd be focused on the present and not the past.

Add in that they re-jiggered the genealogy to suit themselves and these are posts to ignore. And I would never have known about any of this without the correction, which raises the question whether it's worth correcting such things.

I agree with Andrew

What is it Kilrain said in the movie Gettysburg:
"I don't think race or country matters a damn. What matters, Colonel, is justice. Which is why I'm here. I'll be treated as I deserve, not as my father deserved…"

That being said, to join the theme, I too am proud of my family's military service in time of war. I just recently learned that my 5xgreat grandfather fought at Bunker Hill (and believed to have died of his wounds) at age 64.

Every statue on a pedestal has some bird poo on them!

I hope you can stay happy despite all the hate directed your way Bill! -- WE ARE YOUR FRIENDS!

One of my German relatives was a gun runner in the 1980's. He got busted shipping weapons from Libya to the IRA. Two of my Grandfather's uncles were body guards for Kaiser Wilhelm.

My first Irish relative that came to the US papers described him ans an illiterate chair maker. Many of them fought for the Union in the Civil War. If you visit the Chancellorsville battle museum you'll see the Zouave uniform of one of my Murray relatives and where a Rebel round hit him in the shoulder (he survived). Two served with Admiral Farragut at Mobile Bay (USS Oneida).

My German relatives came over in the 1880's fleeing Bismarck's "Kulturkamp". My grandfather was the Captain of a Machine Gun Company of the 80th Division in WWI and all of his cousins fought on the German side. Six did not survive the war. My dad told me he saw Frank Luke's last fight downing two German balloons and then being shot down.

During WWII two died at Stalingrad and one near Zaarbrukken a month before the war ended. He was also a WWI vet. No infamous relatives that I know of. The family is from the Alsnace-Lorraine area which was not looked on favorably by the Nazis.

Wolfhag

They lie about your heritage because they know it bothers you! how do they know? Because you tell them so.
Playground rules bruv,playground rules.

Will never understand why people have to do this, cleared up and try and forget it.

As a wild guess would have thought mix cross of Cossack and Scottish Highlander

Will never understand why people have to do this, cleared up and try and forget it.

I ignore 99% of the lies they tell about me, but it was important to me to set the record straight about my grandparents.

Bill.
This Thaddeus Blanchette character may be the same guy from Brazil that enjoys having a go at the designer Ty Bomba on BoardGameGeek.
He seems to be obsessed with the poor guy so maybe you aren't his only victim.

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Yes, that's him. He's an American living in Brazil, teaching at a junior college there, claims to be a specialist on 'sex work' (he wrote a paper normalizing pimps).

Blanchette uses the 'Macunaima' alias on several gaming forums.

Bill, as a law enforcement officer I have found that no matter what I do some people are just going to hate me. I accept that fact but do not let it interfere with my life. If someone doesn't like me that is their problem, not mine.

The only way to get by Choctaw. I was able to retire with my self- worth still intact.

I think the difference is if your in law enforcement its the badge and the uniform.
With Bill it seems very personal god know's why he seems okay to me.

Murphy +1

Yes, very interesting family histories here guys !

With Bill it seems very personal god know's why he seems okay to me.

I seem OK to me, too. I have a great life, wonderful family, many friends, a great church community, and I'm happy by nature. How many people get to make a living doing something they love?

Why do some people attack me in such a personal way?

Thaddeus Blanchette got tossed from TMP when he got into a quarrel with another member, and tried to track him down and cause trouble for him in his real life – that's cyberstalking, and Blanchette does it regularly. He's just a bully. He hates me for tossing him off TMP.

Derek Hodge is an odd case. He got kicked off TMP for harassing Flames of War players, despite all kinds of second chances, and I warned him some of the people he was harassing were young gamers. Couldn't control himself. Somehow, this has motivated him into an obsession with TMP. He keeps spreadsheets about TMP! He runs multiple sock puppets on social media so he can agree with himself. Says he wants to dance on the grave of TMP. That's just… mental.

Some people hate TMP because I give jobs to trans people. These lamebrains somehow think that makes me gay, 'degenerate', that I wear a dress, that I have a harem, that I'm arranging marriages or selling drugs, and just the most stupid stuff you ever heard. They ignore the simple fact that I know some trans people because they worked for me on another web project (and no, it had nothing to do with online dating or pornography!). Haters gonna hate.

Some people are just 'blowhards' who can't believe that forum rules apply to them. These are 'big ego' people with self-confidence issues. "What do you mean I can't make fun of the French? We do it all the time down at the club."

Some people have ownership issues. After being part of the TMP community for a few years, they start to think of themselves as 'owners'. They start to tell me 'the right way' to run TMP, and they get very frustrated when I explain how most aspects of TMP are decided by the community. They eventually become offended when I won't give in to their desire for control.

And some people are just jealous. They think running TMP is an easy job, and they think it's just luck that I'm in charge and not them. You can recognize them because they keep insisting how dumb I am, how I've never done anything for gaming, how inferior TMP technology is, and on and on. They're actually exposing their own feelings of inferiority and self-defeat.

You can't let these type of people get you down. I feel sorry for them. I offer second chances in many cases. I mostly ignore them. I fill my life with good things and happiness. I pray for them to find healing.

Heck, people have been lying about my heritage for years. The most common is, 'they fought to preserve slavery'. In truth my ancestors were poor farmers who were in the militia and came out to fight whenever the Yankees came out of Suffolk on a raid. They lie because it gives them an advantage and a form of power in the present, I suspect your stalker does it for similar reasons. It's the same with my profession, people lie about us because it gives them power.

I know a little about my father's family, they were too poor to afford much of anything. My great-grandfather had concrete poured over his grave to mark it because the family couldn't afford a headstone and my grandfather dies in a two room house. On top of that, when the Yankees did one of their raids they burned down the local courthouse with all the tax/obituary/wills/and other records.

My mother was adopted by her father and we found out his ancestors fought in the AWI. My grandmother had an uncle in WWI, but we know nothing about him. I was quite surprised when we did a DNA test and found out my grandfather was an Ashkenazi Jew.

They lie because it gives them an advantage and a form of power in the present, I suspect your stalker does it for similar reasons.

Yes, you're right, I think it feeds his narcissism.