"My Spouse Said I can Have the Study! It's Mine all Mine!" Topic

Que the wicked laughter – Mwahahahaha – the study is mine!

I made some progress turning the space into my own, but first, a lovely visit to the Chickamauga battlefield with a hobby friend from the UK.

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As a bachelor, I am poorly adapted to the finer nuances of connubial bliss, but I cannot shake the sense that you are being gently led down the primrose path, and some trap waits to be sprung just around the next bend.

Beware…

Ha! Well said, though in her defense, I must say I think she has come to value the friendships I have made in this hobby and sees it now as something to encourage. It helps keep me happy and that is important to "connubial bliss" as well!

We just moved to a house that is much bigger than we need (we bought it for the property) so I have moved from my basement nook to the smallest of the upstairs bedrooms – but it is all mine!

My wife was happy to have me move there – I suspect she can keep a better eye on me and it means we don't have to buy any extra furniture

When she asks to "store one little thing" in their say NO.

Now that we are empty nesters, there is a spare bedroom for her stuff should she need it. Besides, after thirty years of marriage , I know the perils of "no"!

Its a TRAP ! I used to have my own room, too !

Then the first grandson was born…'Only temporary,'
she said as the crib, changing table and baby
bureau were moved in…then came the second grandson…

Over 7 years for 'temporary'…and OBTW the boys have
their own room now, but we have to leave 'my room'
like it is 'because you never know…'

Ha! Go ahead and fall for that one. I used to have my own 500 square foot building behind the house. Until "Hey, we need to store this stuff for the garage sale in your building. It's only temporary."

We built a separate building in the garden which is all mine for The Hobby. And the best thing is that it was my wife's idea. Bless her.

(Mind you, the logic was that she got back the dining room on a permanent basis.)

Mine was just so happy to get rid of the picture of Napoleon in the dining room…

IT'S A TRAP!

Mine was happy for me to takeover a spare room upstairs. She said my hobbies keep me out of the bars and off the streets. Whatever that means.

If you needed permission, it's not really yours.

"If you needed permission, it's not really yours" – Guessing you're not married. :) After thirty years I have learned the value of joint decision making. It's liable to stick, as opposed to the other!

photocrinch, congratulations on your good fortune. I have to say though, even when our three daughters lived at home, I always managed to have a space to call my own for a game room/den. I am now lucky enough to have 3/4th of our full basement as my playroom, complete with a pool table that I use for gaming.

Fortunate indeed nnascati. I have always had the basement to retreat to, but it is not finished, so less than ideal, but certainly a nice refuge when I needed some time away from the kiddos and to get some painting done. Hoping to get the basement spruced up as well one day, with a ping pong table as a gaming surface….

Once your spouse thinks that you are 'tame', it's amazing the crap that you can get away with. (Wives are not allowed to read further; it's the law!)
For instance,"Oh Honey, I was trying to buy you some flowers and I accidentally bought some miniatures. I'm awfully sorry and (this is important) it will never happen again.
This can only work once a year, unless your anniversary is greater than 5 months from Valentine's Day.
Beware: you still have to watch out for the flying frying pan…

A year ago I was "this close" to getting a room when my daughter got married. By the time we got her stuff all moved out, my Mother-in-Law (who is great) and my wife's nephews with their mother moved in as well (yes a total of 4 people).

Two rooms gone but some time in the "near" future I might get a part of the loft or another child may move out.

In the meantime I do enjoy watching everyone put their new gameroom digs into shape, and hopefully I can pick up some ideas – so keep posting guys.

I've always sort of had the basement for my stuff. And while I have room for my study and my painting/workshop, there was no place large enough to actually set up a game. To game i had to take my stuff elsewhere.

But the last of my kids has just moved out and theoretically they will be taking all of their stuff with them and by knocking out a wall or two I might (might!) just be able to set up a gaming space. We shall see.

For me, it's the opposite way round: in the near future my wife and I are agreed that we shall gift our present home to our children, so they can continue to live and work in London, where they would have no chance of being able to buy a place of their own; we will go and live in Wales, using our savings to buy a much cheaper house – then I may? finally get a room for my wargame books and stuff…

I am just waiting for my 19 year old son leaving the nest :)

We opted for no kids and 3 dogs hence I have the entire basement for several game tables and the main table motorizes to the ceiling. Its essentially a TV studio as well. Eventually I'll hook up the telescope to the roof so I can scan the skies from a computer monitor all the time.

In 2002 my wife came into the 'temporary study' and told me that we could afford to add on a library. It is 11 x 18 (in feet) and one of the long walls is all bookshelves and cabinets and the walls are covered in framed military prints of the Civil War (Union only), the French Revolutionary and Napoleonic Wars, and the Continental Army of the War of the Revolution.

The shelves and one case have part of the toy and model soldier collection along with an excellent wooden ship model of the USS Niagara. Model aircraft hand from two of the ceiling beams, along with Marine Corps memorabilia from the units I served in.

The old workroom upstairs is now my son's room, and his old room when he was a baby is the new workroom for painting.

I waited for some years, but it was definitely worth it.

Glad to hear so many of us have been able to carve out some dedicated space for the hobby. I really do think that given time, our spouses can realize the value of the hobby for us and come to appreciate it.

No such thing as a free study…

I have a basement room for gaming and another for the computer. I cannot complain. Actually, I am quite fortunate.

As am I.

Me too. After 2 complete rounds of 4 kids boomeranging on us, the law has been laid down, as in a massive remodel project that is getting rid of most of the extra rooms. So I gain a complete room devoted to gaming, my wife gains a nice room for her crafts, and I get a smaller room for my den. I've had two games in the gaming room since it became available in October, and my wife has plans to host a 'girls night board gaming' there. How cool is that!

Lucky dog! I made myself a man cave about 10 years ago. All was well until my wife lost her teaching job & retired about 18 months ago. Now she has taken over the man cave and I'm retiring at the end of this year. What is a man to do?

We must continue to exchange advise and ploys on these matters.