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Ottoathome21 Sep 2017 6:56 p.m. PST

In the thread on "What's the best thing about being a war gamers" many people said it was the friends they had

What is the character of a friend in this context.

What is the emotional criteria when a person becomes a "friend"

Northern Monkey21 Sep 2017 7:37 p.m. PST

What colour pants does he wear?

Personal logo Cacique Caribe Supporting Member of TMP21 Sep 2017 8:07 p.m. PST

Unlike what you hear repeatedly in shows and movies, a friend isn't someone who will always back you up in everything you do, even when what you are doing is obviously wrong.

A friend is someone who should reach out to you when they think you're taking a really bad step, be it in life or on the wargaming table. They feel close enough to you to have earned the right to tell you things as they are, and to be heard, and they will do so because they truly have your best interest at heart.

Dan

KSmyth21 Sep 2017 8:21 p.m. PST

Those I consider my closest friends began as gamer buddies, but at some point our friendship became about more than just gaming. We share other interests and are comfortable talking about the other parts of our lives. They not only have a comfortable relationship with me, but with my wife and grown sons.

My three closest friends are named David, which is weird, but sometimes all of us get together and when somebody says "Dave" it gets very confusing. But I have no doubt they are my friends.

Dschebe Supporting Member of TMP21 Sep 2017 8:35 p.m. PST

+1 to Dan.

advocate22 Sep 2017 1:29 a.m. PST

"a friend": when you ask some embarrassing question you never ask for yourself, always for "a friend".
A friend: what Dan and KSmyth said.

ZULUPAUL Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 2:02 a.m. PST

+2 Dan

ITALWARS Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 2:44 a.m. PST

a friend is a person that share with you emotions, that have mentahl afinities and above all is almost everytime on your side

Ed Mohrmann Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 3:47 a.m. PST

What Dan posted sums it up neatly

Personal logo PzGeneral Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 4:07 a.m. PST

+3 Dan

21eRegt22 Sep 2017 4:16 a.m. PST

+4 Dan

FusilierDan Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 4:50 a.m. PST

Otto, in terms of gaming or other hobbies I would say a friend is someone who has much the same vision of having fun and enjoying the hobby as you do. Their company is enjoyable and even if you don't have 100% the same interests they and you are willing to accommodate each other. You could hang out with each other but the focus is on the hobby.

M C MonkeyDew22 Sep 2017 4:51 a.m. PST

A friend is a potential enemy who has yet to turn on you. note that this differs significantly from a stranger, who is an enemy you have not yet met :)

Just sayin…

Ottoathome22 Sep 2017 6:20 a.m. PST

Dear MC Monkey De2

You should abbreviate it as "A friend is the first step to betrayal, family is the next to last.

Ottoathome22 Sep 2017 6:26 a.m. PST

The term friend of course is a catch all to describe

1. a person to whom you have no particular animosity against,

2. to a person you have shared memories and similar interests,

3.to a person you have shared memories and similar interests with whom you enjoy very much engaging in these things together,

4.to a person you have deep affection and feelings for,

5. to a person you would do a murder for.

It is wise to define which stage a particular relationship is in.

VCarter Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 8:20 a.m. PST

A friend will help you move.
A true friend will help you move the body.

Ottoathome22 Sep 2017 10:01 a.m. PST

Dear V Carter

I LIKE IT!!! Gonna steal it.

Otto

Personal logo etotheipi Sponsoring Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 10:33 a.m. PST

A friend will bail you out of jail at two o'clock in the morning.

A good friend is sitting there in jail with you saying, "Man, we gotta do that again."

Henry Martini22 Sep 2017 2:27 p.m. PST

Technically the correct verb in the context of that transaction would be 'receive', Otto.

nnascati Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 4:05 p.m. PST

A friend is someone with whom you develop a relationship beyong the mutual interest in wargames. Of the three regualar opponents I had, I consider only one a friend. Now I game with one son in law, who is both a gaming opponent and a friend.

Personal logo Narratio Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 6:52 p.m. PST

'Friend'? What is this 'Friend' you speak of stranger?

Personal logo capncarp Supporting Member of TMP22 Sep 2017 10:11 p.m. PST

Our college D&D group is still quite close beyond the gaming side of things.

Personal logo Patrick R Supporting Member of TMP23 Sep 2017 2:28 a.m. PST

"A good friend will help you move, but a true friend will help you move a body."

― Steven J. Daniels, Weeds in The Garden of Love

Dynaman878923 Sep 2017 3:14 a.m. PST

A good friend would not ask you to help move a body – unless he was a mortician or some such thing…

I have lots of gaming buddies who I like but very few friends as such. I have to trust someone almost like family for me to consider them a friend.

Ottoathome23 Sep 2017 5:18 a.m. PST

Never trust family. They don't think of you as a person.

Dynaman878923 Sep 2017 9:04 a.m. PST

Nope, they think of you as something much better – as family

Rotundo26 Sep 2017 7:19 a.m. PST

A friend is someone who calls you terrible things, and yet makes you feel better about yourself.

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