OK Rules first AWC21 Fits your bill, excellent set of rules available on PDF from here
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Download the free lite version to give them a look and then buy the Max edition.
Missiles next, currently the answer is no and as the largest AAM, the Soviet R-40/AA-6 Acrid,would only be a cm long I don't see it happening soon. Oddzial Osmy, usually shortened to O8, does SAMs
available here
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Ultra modern planes are pretty thin on the ground. Only the Eurofighter/Typhoon is currently available again from O8
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However they have an F-22 coming soon. The O8 models are smaller than TD but as long as you don't have the same aircraft from both companies on the table at the same time its no problem.
Although you didn't ask can I suggest Dom Decals for, well decals, a wide range of national markings. Added to which he carries TD aircraft and is a nice helpful guy.
domsdecals.com
Hope this helps and of course welcome to the dark side. ;-)
Fatman